We got schwitty with it in the studio when this client brought her entire Rick and Morty plush collection. So, I told her to “Hit the Sack Jack!” and get “Wriggity Wriggity Wrecked”! This series took me to another dimension for sure!
Have you ever stopped to think about why we make the excuses that we do? These excuses get in the way of what of we really want to do.
Money is a big one. Maybe the granddaddy of all excuses? There are so many emotions and behaviors tied to money that identifying why we’re making excuses becomes even more difficult.
We’ve all been to the theme parks before where an ice cream cone is priced at five times what we pay in the supermarket. We all understand that we can buy a carton of ice cream for what it costs to buy it at the theme park. Ultimately, we make the purchase because our experience at the theme park just wouldn’t be the same without it. Essentially, it comes down to what we value. Sometimes, a memorable experience matters more than money.
We tell ourselves that we can’t afford a spa day, the massage, the concert tickets, or whatever other luxury that we’re denying ourselves. We say, “I don’t want to come across as shallow, or self-centered.”
We struggle with our weight but follow diets we know won’t work, or continue to eat without control because at the end of the day we don’t really want to be held accountable.
So, what have we learned today? Being cheap can be destructive and it’s okay to make yourself a priority. Because you’re worth it.
Self-care is the new buzzword. If we just buy enough miracle skin creams, go the gym, be fit, do yoga, get manis, pedis, massages, and visit the salon on the regular, we will be happy, well-adjusted, and productive adults right?
Wrong. Listen, I don’t have to tell you that adulting is hard. Sometimes making time to do all of the above can just leave us more exhausted than when we started.
Self-care is NOT self-love and as your resident female empowerer, I have some ideas on how to love yourself a little more:
Practice Gratitude: Appreciate your legs, cellulite and all. They carry you through each and every day. Appreciate your arms for the same reason. Accept that although your smile may bring out your crows feet, it also lifts your cheeks and makes you look younger.
Forgive Yourself: Negative self-talk is almost second nature for most of us. Notice your reactions to stress and take accountability. In other words, if you’re feeling bitchy, what’s the root cause? Then take action to remedy the bitchiness.
Wear It! Wearing clothes (lingerie included!) that makes us feel good gives us confidence. It’s self-expression. We can express moods and persona with our outfits.
Wear all the hats! We have many roles: boss, co-worker, mom, friend, wife, girlfriend etc. These roles don’t operate independently of each other. Being a mom, for example, doesn’t mean you stop being a sensual being. So don’t accept the little box that society wants to put you into. We can drive ourselves crazy with societal norms and expectations.
Shameless Plug: Of course, a boudoir session can help you appreciate yourself. I’d love to help you change the way you see yourself.
Amy’s Schumer’s reverse body dysmorphia in I Feel Pretty
The movie caught a lot of criticism because its star may not be up Hollywood’s glam standards, but she’s attractive, blonde, and her body type is still much smaller than the average woman. Many felt that Amy Schumer had been miscast; they should have cast someone who was uglier and fatter in order for the audience to relate.
There were critics saying that the movie should have examined the unrealistic standards upheld by the beauty industry but this movie is a rom-com, not a documentary. Comedy is meant to be lighthearted, and is oftentimes offensive and stereotypical. Shakespeare used stereotypes and his comedy is timeless.
Mostly, I think the critics missed the point of the movie completely, which is that a high self-esteem is far more important than your looks.
I think we can all relate to that moment that Amy's character, Renee, looks in the mirror and feels like just isn't good enough. It's amazing that when we are children, it's perfectly acceptable to have a belly yet so quickly do we learn to hate ourselves.
Renee manages to fall in love with her body in spite of society’s narrow standards. And once she does, she feels so free. Her newfound confidence enables to her take on risks and new experiences that she otherwise never would have.
People respond more positively to you when you feel more confident and positive about yourself. When you feel like you are worth it, other people believe it too. You are more than your insecurities.
And you don’t have to fall down and hit your head to feel beautiful. A boudoir session is a much more positive, and healthy way to feel better about yourself.
I came up with a temporary shower set as the bathroom in my studio is much too small to shoot in and the results were nothing short of spectacular.
This was a limited edition set due to the small space afforded by studio; I cannot leave it up all the time. BUT...that doesn't mean I won't be bringing it back. If you want in on these sessions, get on my mailing list now!
I’ve had clients come in for a session after massive weight loss and I’m often asked what kind of lingerie is best for hiding excess skin or scars from surgery for skin removal.
You’ve heard me say this one before and I keep recommending it because it’s a universally flattering piece; it’s the workhorse of the lingerie closet: the corset.
Look for a steel-boned corset; it will hold its shape better than a corset with plastic boning.
Bodystockings: I love them because they show off your shape, are revealing, but still cover a multitude of perceived flaws such as cellulite, scars, varicose veins, etc.
Gowns or Lace Dresses: Sheer lace works the same way a bodystocking does but you can wear it over a pretty bra and underwear set or completely nude. Alternatively, you can also wear a satin gown for a more conservative look.
Hi-Waisted Briefs: They look great under a lace gown or paired with a bra, elbow length gloves and some over-the-knee boots.
Robes: They can be worn over other pieces, and used to drape and hide certain areas.
As women, we get so nervous about exposing ourselves in a boudoir session, but it's really more about showing who you are. Your choice of wardrobe (if any) not only reflects your personality, but can help you feel better in your skin. Don't let a little extra skin get in the way of expressing your sensual side.
As a boudoir photographer, I see a lot of clients that suffer from low self-esteem, body dysmorphia, depression, self-image issues after surgery or a major accident. Today, I’m going to tell you my story about low self-esteem, and lack of confidence.
It took four tries. With each failure, I’d rehash what I needed to do differently. I’m talking about the number of times I tried to leave an abusive relationship.
I was 18 and I had grown up in abusive household. It didn’t take long before I fell into the abusive relationship I’d grown up with.
It started with him just “wanting to spend time with me”, and my friends complaining that they never saw me. And before long, when I wanted to go out and do things with my friends that didn’t include him, he’d say “Your friends are a bad influence.”
It later escalated to anger when I did attempt to spend time with my friends. I began to conceal visits with friends to avoid his wrath.
And then came my family. My mother immediately recognized the signs, and divorced my abusive stepfather when I was 15. Unfortunately, she was too late to stop the cycle of abuse.
L felt threatened. He knew that my friends and family didn’t care for him and his response was to isolate me even further from my friends and family.
I ended up moving in with him when my student financial aid was late and I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to get housing on campus. With that move, L was able to track my comings and goings. It got to the point that I was expected to come home in between classes if I had more than hour in between.
At first, when he got angry, he would take his anger out on inanimate objects. Mostly, those objects tended to be things that were important, or of sentimental value to me.
On one occasion, he ripped my math book to shreds because I was trying to study and not paying attention to him. It didn’t take long for the behavior to escalate to physical abuse. I stayed for the reason that every abused woman stays: low self-esteem.
L became jealous and insecure of even my schoolwork. I was a theater major and he didn’t want me to audition for anything that involved a love interest. I lost a role in an independent film because he insisted on coming to the set and telling the director what I could and could not do.
L enlisted the help of his mother to keep from leaving the first time. She had convinced me to stay, and he tearfully promised me he would be better. And things were better…for a few weeks.
Every attempt after that was met with him crying and tracking me down at my place of work, my school, or through my friends. I began to feel like I would never be able to get away from him, and in some twisted logic, I felt like if I married him, that he would finally get tired of me. We got married by a justice of the peace. My mother moved out of state and stopped speaking with me altogether. I had very few friends left to confide in.
It wasn’t until I had graduated college and started a new job where I had time away from L that I was able to get to know some of my co-workers. One of my co-workers said that she too, had been in a relationship like mine, and referred me to the attorney she used. I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to afford an attorney since L controlled all of the finances, and she assured me that the attorney would allow me to make payments, and that I didn’t have to pay him in full every month.
Luckily, I still had my credit cards in my name and I was able to take a cash advance from them. I had managed to relocate my mother and started buying prepaid calling cards so I could call her without L knowing.
I was able to finally start planning what needed to be done: set up a PO Box, find an apartment, change my work schedule, and have him served with divorce papers once I was finally moved out. I asked my closest, and only, friend at the time to help me move, and my mother helped me with a down payment on another car once I finally left for good. L stole my car one evening while I was at a friend’s house, even though legally, I was entitled to one of the vehicles since Pennsylvania law splits marital property 50%.
I’m telling my story because if there are any of you out there who can identify with my story, then I hope by reading my story that you realize that you can leave.
Controlling, abusive partners can be identified by the way they to try isolate partners from friends and family. They often violate your privacy by checking your phone or emails, and are constantly paranoid or jealous. Trust is virtually non-existent in a controlling relationship, and they will ignore your feelings.
You know your partner will try to find you and lure you back. They will continue to violate your privacy, cry, and perhaps even threaten to hurt you or them.
Figure out your finances before you leave; have a place to stay and make sure your partner won’t be able to follow you home from work or friends’ homes. Get a restraining order if need be. Get a prepaid cell phone and see if you can alter your work schedule. Have a network of people that you can count on to help you through the process, whether it’s friends, family, or a clergy member.
I highly recommend the book Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. It was written by a former FBI consultant who learned the precursors to violence. An abuser will often fit many of those signs.
You deserve better. Choose yourself. Choose happiness and freedom. Life is too short not to.
I can’t tell you the number of times that I’ve been shopping and looked at a dress or a top and thought, “Where the hell am I supposed to stuff the girls?” Duct tape is a breast’s worst enemy. Therefore, anything that requires strapless or backless becomes a no-no in my closet.
Most strapless bras are ill-fitting and don't stay up. Not to mention that most of them are downright plain. It seems that bra manufacturers don't want to invest in the R&D to develop a bra that would solve a wardrobe problem for a vast majority of women.
Don’t get me wrong. I love the look of strapless and backless. It just seems to be a look that is meant for the less well endowed, or those fortunate enough to have perky breast implants.
So, when I was scrolling through Instagram, and saw the Upbra, I had to find out more. Everyone has seen the stick-on strapless bra with the strings meant for pulling the cleavage together, and although you might get a little cleavage, it doesn’t lift the girls, and will apparently fall off with boob sweat (which is a given in Florida).
I was sure this was going to be another gimmick. The website photos shows of the bra being modeled by women with ample assets, but it was the before-and-after photos that won me over.
I promptly made the purchase based on my usual bra size without taking their patent-pending bra size test so when the first one arrived, I had to return it for a smaller band size. It is often said 80% of women are wearing the wrong bra size, although I couldn't seem to find a reliable source to support this notion. I gained some weight and assumed I needed to go up a band size. Who knew I was a 36DD?
Well, apparently, now the whole internet knows. If you’re a lingerie company, feel free to send me any new bras that you’d like a review of. (pervs need not apply)
Shipping is fast; the bra arrived in about two days. It definitely doesn’t resemble your typical strapless bra. The cups have some kind of panel in them that the breasts sort of sit on top of to lift them. After you put the bra on, you adjust the clips on the inside to adjust for minimum or maximum cleavage. Do take note: the more you stretch those clips, the more cleavage you get, but you also get more jiggle, aka the titty twerk.
I put it on but wasn’t totally sold until I actually tried it on with some clothes. It doesn’t leave a visible bra line, is quite supportive, and actually stays in place.
That means I actually bent over in it and jumped up and down. The things I do in the name of blogging integrity…
The Upbra would be even better with a slightly wider band and 3 hooks for support, and some boning in the band would probably help give the girls a bit more lift.
My Holy Grail strapless bra is one that will lift my boobs up to my neck and still stay put all day. What’s that saying? “The higher the boobs, the closer to God?” Oh wait, that’s for high heels. Well, I believe it applies to boobs too.
So, is the Upbra my Holy Grail strapless? Mostly. I’d still love a bit more lift, but if I’m being realistic, I’d need a crane for that anyway.
I welcome being able to introduce some strapless styles into my wardrobe. Oh, and Upbra, if you’re reading this, please make a black, lacy, strapless Upbra.
Vacationing in Florida? Here’s your lingerie and swimwear guide. Let yourself be inspired by the floral and fauna, and wear something brightly colored. Red really compliments a tan.
Be ahead of the curve with these plunging pieces from Yandy.com that will let you be your own Baywatch babe.
A nude crochet bikini transforms you into a boho beach bunny.
Similarly, going nude with your lingerie allows you to wear plenty of white.
I love a good cover-up as much the next woman but beach pants let you cover up without covering up everything.
High-waisted may be retro but couldn't be more modern these days. This bra and panty set from Yandy.com is meant to be seen, both in the bedroom or out. Pair the bra with a sheer top for added sex appeal.
Tampa is known for its hip and trendy social scene and diverse population. There’s enough here to satisfy any tourist’s need to both explore and relax. Let Boudoir Betty make your vacation one you won't soon forget!
This post is dedicated to all my hard-core lingerie lovers out there. I previously wrote a post about how you don’t have to wear lingerie. Click HERE to read.
But now, I want to discuss the ingredients for pulse-pounding, heart-stopping lingerie.
Harnesses: Next to bodysuits, these are probably my absolute fav. They’re unapologetically sexy. The focus is usually on the neck, which is considered an erogenous zone. Plus, they’re multi-taskers: They may take some effort to put on, but you could wear it over a white button down shirt, under anything low-cut, anything sheer, or even over a dress.
Bandage: She’s an aggressive tigress, like her cousin “bondage”. Bandage lingerie is body-conscious lingerie that promises to whip every curve into shape. It’s the opposite of “Nice girls don’t do that” mentality, and projects the idea of a woman in complete control.
Corsets: It’s never-ending love affair. They whittle the waist and push the girls the higher and closer to the heavens. They give every shape the coveted hourglass shape. TIP: Make sure you get a steel-boned corset; plastic boning will lose its shape faster than a fat kid chasing the ice cream truck.
Lace: Its origin is lost to history yet it remains timeless and feminine. The delicate fabric is the only fabric known to represent both chastity and debauchery. The only differentiator seems to be color associations: pure white, scandalous red, or black as either sophisticated or somber.
And there you have it. You are now armed to locate your own brand of daring.
Why do women come in for sessions?
There are many different reasons: birthdays, anniversaries, milestones, but some reasons are much more emotional.
For example, I had a client schedule a session for her boyfriend and then nearly cancel because she found out he was cheating on her. I told her to come in anyway because looking good is always the best revenge.
By the time she came in, they were back together again. She was choosing to stay as an expression of love and commitment to work on the relationship.
It was a much needed reminder that she is truly worthy and beautiful.
A boudoir session can be a reminder that the things you believe you "lack" have nothing to do with your spouse or significant other’s actions.
Other women in the same situation come to me because they’re going through a divorce or leave their significant other. Their boudoir session serves as a way to reconnect with themselves and their sexuality.
I've had women come in who have lost a significant amount of weight, but still identify with the "before" weight-loss version of themselves. They still find themselves gravitating to plus-sized clothing and rejecting styles that are body-conscious because they don't feel they can pull them off, but seeing photos of themselves in their new body helps them get comfortable with the idea of being a smaller size.
Still others may come in after they’ve had surgery of some kind . The boudoir session helps empower them to feel beautiful and whole again.
In a way, a boudoir session is a kind of therapy. You can funnel your fears and pain into something positive, and more importantly, ART!
We all have that one less-than-flattering photo. You know, the one that looks like you're about to birth a food baby or three?
I get why women find it intimidating to come in for a session and get undressed, or at least partially undressed in front of a stranger. Just know that I won't stare blankly at you while you figure out how to emote sexy. I will guide you into poses that make you look like the drop-dead gorgeous woman that you are.
One of the things we'll discuss when you come in for your session is any perceived problem areas. I always hear that women want to lose a few pounds first, but I have you covered in the posing department. Let's look at some examples, shall we?
Titling your head slightly down can be flattering for most face shapes but tilt too far down and you create a double chin. Tyra Banks has a trick that she calls the "turtle". Push your chin out a bit and hold your tongue against the roof of your mouth to avoid a double chin.
Letting arms hang limply at your side flattens the muscle and makes it look larger. Bending your elbows and creating a triangle creates a much more flattering silhouette.
I'm all about creating or enhancing curves. Having her bend the leg that is closest to the camera and place her hands behind her to create negative space gives her a much more dynamic shape.
You can see that the photo on the left does nothing for her shape. Her arms are hanging limply at her side. Again, I have her bend the leg that is closest to the camera and bend her elbow slightly to create negative space.
Create the illusion of a smaller waist. No Photoshop required. Simply placing your hands around your middle and bringing them in closely gives the appearance of a teeny, tiny waist.
I can also help to create a rounder derriere. Lifting the hips creates a booty-ful booty to behold and has the added benefit of smoothing out any cellulite one may have.
I promise that I will never take a photo of your bum straight on; that's always a sure fire way to make you look as wide as possible. We avoid this by having your shift your weight onto one hip and bending the leg that's furthest away from the camera.
"Pop" the booty in a standing position and you've got a butt worthy of the song "Baby Got Back"!
It's all about that hourglass shape! Tummy in, chest out! Shift your weight onto one hip, and create a diamond with your hands on your hips.
See? I promise I can make you look as gorgeous as the ladies on my website. What are you waiting for?
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Shameless Plug Here: I'm both honored and excited to count myself as one of the many artists at Nude Nite Tampa's annual art exhibit featuring over 200 juried artworks. Nude Nite, the largest show dedicated to exhibiting nude artworks in North America opens its doors MARCH 1, 2, 3 - 2018 for its annual exhibition of art and entertainment. But Nude Nite is far more than an art fair - with a licensed bar and rolling stage shows, guests will be treated to a sparkling evening of live entertainment. NN is renowned for showcasing leading performers and award-winning artists from the worlds of burlesque, circus and body painting. It's a truly unique experience, and open to the public.
I spoke with Gwen Washington, one of the founders of LuvTalk, a relationship forum for women to improve their relationships and when I found out she is hosting a few mixers in Tampa for ladies, I just knew I needed to feature her on my blog.
1) What is LuvTalk? And Where Can People find LuvTalk online?
Luv talk is a dating advice platform with monthly content on all things love and a dating advice app that allows users to connect with a personalized dating coach or matchmaker. We are on web and IOS apple store for the app.
2) How long has LuvTalk been improving relationships?
Luv talk started over a year ago and we have made great improvements to our site and finished our first app two months ago. We have coaches and matchmakers from Chicago, Tampa, and California soon to be NYC as well.
3). What's your biggest tip for women seeking to improve their romantic relationship?
Learn how to Communicate with your partner. The biggest tip I can give is understanding communication is the most important tool in a relationship. If you can't say what you want and what you don't want, you won't get it. Learn to communicate in a nonjudgmental way and you will have less confusion and less anxiety.
4) What advice do you have for the single ladies out there?
Stay positive and feminine. We can beat ourselves up over our looks, career, and family life. It is important to treat yourself and make sure you are doing little things that you enjoy and make you feel feminine. The right guy will come along and sense that positive and empowered feminine energy. Love comes in when you truly love yourself and value you.
5) How often do you feature Ladies Nights in the Tampa area?
We are starting to increase our ladies night with monthly at various bars. We have done Wine Exchange, Flemings, and have the upcoming Cask Social Kitchen in February and American Social Club coming in March.
Women come to me usually for two reasons: either they feel really beautiful and sexy and want me to capture that for them, or they don’t feel sexy at all and need that confident boost. Of course there are other reasons women get boudoir done, but those are the top two. You may be the in the latter camp.
Although I do find that a boudoir session carries lasting results for clients including a sense of newfound confidence and a reassurance that they are indeed beautiful, sometimes we just have those days when we feel about as sexy as a pissing toad.
I mean, Mama June went and got herself a beach body and I’m still over here eating cookies for breakfast. That’s ok. My boobs match my butt. I put my big girl panties on, which may or may not include a leopard print, look in the mirror, and pull my confidence secrets out of my hat. Let me share a few:
Whether I’m wearing make-up or not, I fill in my brows. It’s the first step to looking more put-together, and well, younger. Most of us want to look as young as possible. Plus, it frames my face. A microblading appointment with Lauren Haley is definitely next up on the beauty list.
Next, I might throw on an off-the-shoulder or cold-shoulder top to show off my neckline. It’s super feminine, and if I’m feeling really extra, I’ll put some highlighter along my collarbone.
Sometimes all we need is lipstick and mascara. Of course, I’m partial to Limelight by Alcone’s Perfect Lipstick which is super pigmented, but no so matte that it makes my lips feel dry, and my lash-lengthening Perfect Mascara that has fibers already in the formula, but no matter which brand you use, there’s just something about lipstick and mascara that serves as a quick mood booster. Give me lashes. Give me lips. Give me the world.
Do something outside your comfort zone. When we’re feeling too comfortable, we develop limitations. We suddenly convince ourselves that there are certain things we can’t do. Getting a little uncomfortable helps you reinforce positive attributes about yourself. Doing a boudoir session is one way to get out of your comfort zone, but it could be as something as simple trying a new machine at the gym.
Gym…did someone say exercise? Yep. I do it at least four times a week. It’s a mood booster that gets the endorphins going, and keeps the doctor at bay.
Then, after you’ve done your session with me, get comfortable accepting compliments and accolades. See below.
Are You Ready to Make Your Confidence Soar?
It’s like a scene from a movie. Your hard-of-hearing aunt misunderstands everything. Your redneck cousin camps his RV on your front lawn, and grandpa is always drunk before noon.
That’s probably why Victor Borge once said, “Santa Claus has the right idea. Visit people once a year.”
Still, we always decide to get a group photo. Gathering up family members for said photo can resemble herding cattle, and it's practically a guarantee that someone in the group will blink at the same time the shutter is pressed. I can’t relieve family tensions but I can help make the annual group photo a little less stressful. Here are some tips to try regardless of what camera you’re using:
1) Put Your Camera or Phone into Burst Mode to increase the chances of getting a shot where everyone is smiling or not blinking.
2) Now is the time for family togetherness; the closer everyone gets in the shot, the more detailed faces are. Get as close as you can yourself either by standing closer or shooting with a zoom lens.
3) Raise your chins to avoid a double chin but not too far; you don’t want everyone looking like a giraffe.
4) Take the shot at the beginning of the event before anyone starts drinking and still looks they’re best.
5) Try shooting from above. This works especially well when you limited space to back up to try and fit everyone in and it’s a large group.
6) If you’re taking photographs outdoors, place friends or family with their backs to the sun. This way, you avoid glare and squinty eyes. If you’re indoors, find light that faces your group so you can avoid using the flash which can give a harsh look to photos. The least flattering light comes from overhead or the side, so avoid that where you can.
Now that you're armed to take the family selfie, don't forget about yourself. Get Your Short Guide on How to Look Gorgeous in Photos Every Time!
How is Boudoir photography like a fast food drive-thru?
Some studios work on a volume basis. Some of them don’t offer hair and make-up on site, and if they do, it’s often an add-on. It’s kind of like ordering a burger; you have your basic patty (your session), and then you can dress it up with lettuce, onion, pickles, and a tomato.
As for your cook (your photographer), you get who ever is scheduled to work that day. Not only is this person a total stranger to you, but you’ve never seen their portfolio of work. The photos on the website represent a myriad of photographers’ work. You might think this is no big deal, but I know from personal experience that you can put ten photographers in the same space with the same subject and no two photos will look the same. That’s because each photographer has a different eye, and different style.
Like the drive-thru, most volume studios will have you in an out about an hour and a half because they're servicing multiple clients in one day.
With me, you are the star for the day. There's no rushing about here. I liken my studio experience to a gourmet burger experience. You get dolled up in my studio with an experienced hair and make-up artist, while sipping on some bubbly.
Plus, you get unlimited camera time, so you can take as long as you need to warm up and get comfortable. Bring as many outfits as you please because there’s no limit on the number of wardrobe changes.
Then you grab some lunch while I cull and select the best photos for your same-day viewing and ordering. You don’t have to wait weeks to make a separate appointment to view your photos.
Best of all, you know the images you’re getting will look exactly like the ones on my website because you know who your “cook” (photographer) is.
Now, that’s a meal You don’t have to feel guilty about!
Glitter. It's known as the herpes of the crafting world and yet I have an unending love affair with glitter. I think it's because I suffer from Shiny Object Syndrome. If it shines, I must have it.
So, what could be better than two ridiculously good looking men and a whole lot of sparkle?
Love. ❤️ Sprinkle it everywhere.
I need to lose weight first. This couldn’t be further from the truth. I always say that I can do with more lighting and posing than you can with six months at the gym.
We may get thinner but we’re not getting younger.
I Don’t Wear Lingerie and/or I Don’t Want to Get Naked. You don’t have to be naked or wear lingerie. I know how to shape light to conceal as well as reveal. See my POST on alternatives to lingerie for non-lingerie ideas.
Boudoir is Porn. Porn objectifies and demeans its subject; it’s explicit in nature. Boudoir photography captures your beauty in a sensual and tasteful manner. It’s about making the subject look and feel incredible.
Boudoir is only for young women. Boudoir is for every BODY and every AGE. One of my clients gets new photos done every year to honor herself. I’ve had clients from age 19-65!
Boudoir photography is a One-Time Experience. False. The confidence boost can be addictive. I have many repeat clients, and they often come back for different reasons: birthdays, bridal boudoir, anniversaries, and even maternity.
Boudoir photography is Only for Those Who Have a Partner: Wrong again. Many clients come in to celebrate weight loss, birthdays, breast cancer recovery, or just to have beautiful photos to capture them at their current age and weight.
You Need to Look Like a Model. Nope. You don’t need to look like, or pose like a professional model. It’s my job to guide you into the right poses, choose the right lighting, and give you the same editing and post-production that models get.
Getting Photographed by a Stranger is Scary. I promise you that I’m furthest thing from scary. I’m a little goofy, but it is always my primary goal to make you feel comfortable. We’ll chat before your session so I can get to know you a little better, and I provide an all-female environment.
It seems that most of these myths are rooted in fear. Have you ever noticed that when you say “yes” to new experiences that good things happen?