How To Choose Your Boudoir Photographer

While boudoir has been around for years, it seems to have really exploded over the last few years. With so many photographers to choose from, clients can be overwhelmed with how to select one.

There are several things to look for that will help make the search easier.

First is style. Take a look at the photographer’s body of work. See what I did there? 😉 Would you describe the style as dark with a lot of shadows, lots of black and white shots, or light, airy, and feminine? I do a bit of light and airy as well as dark myself.

Take note of the amount of retouching as well. Some photographers don’t Photoshop at all, while others take a heavier-handed approach. My editing style is to stay true to you, but remove a client’s “perceived flaws”. We discuss the level of retouching you desire when you view your photos.

Second is experience. Your photographer should really specialize in the genre and not just offer it in addition to weddings, or lifestyle portraits. There’s a different approach with boudoir photography and the photos require a certain eye for detail. Also, note if there are a range of body types represented. I’ve been photographing ladies since 2009 so I’ve photographed nearly every body type there is.

What types of products does your photographer offer? You should be doing something with your images besides letting them sit on your hard drive. First of all, you’ll appreciate them more if you display them, and secondly, they can be subject to file corruption or outright lost on a hard drive. Your photographer should offer heirloom quality products printed at a professional lab. After all, you probably don’t want a teenage boy at your local drugstore printing your intimate photos.

How is their customer service? Do they respond within one business day, or text you back right away? I usually respond to most inquiries within 24 hours or less, and try to respond ASAP if I get a text from a booked client. Additionally, I make every effort to inform clients on turnaround time on their products.

Make sure you’ve at least done a phone consult with your photographer. You should make sure they are easy to talk to. After all, you’re going to be getting naked, or nearly naked in front of this person. You want to make sure that he /she understands your vision, if you have one, and feel confident this photographer can capture it for you. These are things that you won’t know if you converse solely through text or an email.

Lastly, is price. It’s not the least important but should be last in priority of consideration because the investment with boudoir is almost a case of “You-get-what-you-pay-for.” For many women, a boudoir session may be a once-in-a-lifetime experience. It’s not something that should be scrimped on. There’s a lot of work and preparation that goes into a boudoir session, along with post-production. I offer clients a range of payment plans to make it more affordable.

I’d love to chat with you over the phone for a few minutes if you think, we’d be a good fit.

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When Your Partner Says "No" to Boudoir Photos

Sometimes partners are outright adamant about a significant other doing a boudoir session. Most times, it is centered around their own insecurity and projecting it onto their partner. 

These partners fail to understand that boudoir is more than just a sexy photo. It’s about celebrating you, and where you are at right now.  Your partner should be celebrating with you. 

Sometimes, this attitude is limited to just your partner feeling a little jealous that someone other than them is seeing you in such an intimate manner, and they are generally supportive in other areas of your life.  

However, extreme jealous or anger may point to deeper issues within the relationship. Are they controlling, suspicious? Or do they ignore you, insult you, or just not communicate with you in general?  

You know whether your relationship is healthy or not.  You just need to weigh whether it’s worth staying or going.  

Boudoir photos are usually symbolic for women in many ways, and it can be so hurtful when the person we love, and oftentimes take the photos for, reacts poorly.  It can feel like they are rejecting you.  

It’s important for jealous partners to understand what boudoir photos actually represent to their significant other.  We grow up in a society that encourages women to be self-critical; the constant barrage of a beauty ideal that most of us fail to live up to strips us of our confidence.  Instead of teaching little girls to love themselves and their bodies, we are subjected to constant messages that we are less than, or not good enough. 

Boudoir photos allow women to see themselves in a new, loving, and positive light.  It’s self-love, empowering, and healthy for her to see how beautiful she really is. Self-confidence matters because when we are confident, we have less fear and anxiety. We feel more motivated to accomplish new goals, and have better coping skills against failure. 

A more confident partner often translates to better relationships because she’s not worried about what other people think of her.  She can genuinely engage with others, and be more empathetic.  And isn’t that what partners should be celebrating with their significant other?

Contact Me now and take the first step to feeling more powerful, confident, and gorgeous! 

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A Little 911 for Your Lingerie Dilemma: What to Wear After Extreme Weight Loss

I’ve had clients come in for a session after massive weight loss and I’m often asked what kind of lingerie is best for hiding excess skin or scars from surgery for skin removal. 

Black Mesh Overbust Corset 

You’ve heard me say this one before and I keep recommending it because it’s a universally flattering piece; it’s the workhorse of the lingerie closet:  the corset.

Look for a steel-boned corset; it will hold its shape better than a corset with plastic boning. 

Bodystockings:  I love them because they show off your shape, are revealing, but still cover a multitude of perceived flaws such as cellulite, scars, varicose veins, etc.

Gowns or Lace Dresses: Sheer lace works the same way a bodystocking does but you can wear it over a pretty bra and underwear set or completely nude.   Alternatively, you can also wear a satin gown for a more conservative look.

Hi-Waisted Briefs: They look great under a lace gown or paired with a bra, elbow length gloves and some over-the-knee boots. 

Robes:  They can be worn over other pieces, and used to drape and hide certain areas. 

As women, we get so nervous about exposing ourselves in a boudoir session, but it's really more about showing who you are.  Your choice of wardrobe (if any) not only reflects your personality, but can help you feel better in your skin.  Don't let a little extra skin get in the way of expressing your sensual side. 

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The Real Reason Women Get Boudoir Photos

Why do women come in for sessions?

There are many different reasons:  birthdays, anniversaries, milestones, but some reasons are much more emotional. 

For example, I had a client schedule a session for her boyfriend and then nearly cancel because she found out he was cheating on her.  I told her to come in anyway because looking good is always the best revenge. 

By the time she came in, they were back together again.  She was choosing to stay as an expression of love and commitment to work on the relationship. 

It was a much needed reminder that she is truly worthy and beautiful.

A boudoir session can be a reminder that the things you believe you "lack" have nothing to do with your spouse or significant other’s actions.

This momma came in for a boudoir session just a few weeks after giving birth!

Other women in the same situation come to me because they’re going through a divorce or leave their significant other. Their boudoir session serves as a way to reconnect with themselves and their sexuality.

I've had women come in who have lost a significant amount of weight, but still identify with the "before" weight-loss version of themselves. They still find themselves gravitating to plus-sized clothing and rejecting styles that are body-conscious because they don't feel they can pull them off, but seeing photos of themselves in their new body helps them get comfortable with the idea of being a smaller size.

Still others may come in after they’ve had surgery of some kind .  The boudoir session helps empower them to feel beautiful and whole again.

In a way, a boudoir session is a kind of therapy.  You can funnel your fears and pain into something positive, and more importantly, ART! 

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