Women come to me usually for two reasons: either they feel really beautiful and sexy and want me to capture that for them, or they don’t feel sexy at all and need that confident boost. Of course there are other reasons women get boudoir done, but those are the top two. You may be the in the latter camp.

Although I do find that a boudoir session carries lasting results for clients including a sense of newfound confidence and a reassurance that they are indeed beautiful, sometimes we just have those days when we feel about as sexy as a pissing toad.

I mean, Mama June went and got herself a beach body and I’m still over here eating cookies for breakfast. That’s ok. My boobs match my butt. I put my big girl panties on, which may or may not include a leopard print, look in the mirror, and pull my confidence secrets out of my hat. Let me share a few:

Whether I’m wearing make-up or not, I fill in my brows. It’s the first step to looking more put-together, and well, younger. Most of us want to look as young as possible. Plus, it frames my face. A microblading appointment with Lauren Haley is definitely next up on the beauty list.

Next, I might throw on an off-the-shoulder or cold-shoulder top to show off my neckline. It’s super feminine, and if I’m feeling really extra, I’ll put some highlighter along my collarbone.

Sometimes all we need is lipstick and mascara. Of course, I’m partial to Limelight by Alcone’s Perfect Lipstick which is super pigmented, but no so matte that it makes my lips feel dry, and my lash-lengthening Perfect Mascara that has fibers already in the formula, but no matter which brand you use, there’s just something about lipstick and mascara that serves as a quick mood booster. Give me lashes. Give me lips. Give me the world.

Do something outside your comfort zone. When we’re feeling too comfortable, we develop limitations. We suddenly convince ourselves that there are certain things we can’t do. Getting a little uncomfortable helps you reinforce positive attributes about yourself. Doing a boudoir session is one way to get out of your comfort zone, but it could be as something as simple trying a new machine at the gym.

Gym…did someone say exercise? Yep. I do it at least four times a week. It’s a mood booster that gets the endorphins going, and keeps the doctor at bay.

Then, after you’ve done your session with me, get comfortable accepting compliments and accolades. See below.

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Is Pole Dancing Really As Sexy As it Looks?

Usually the thought of pole dancing stirs up connotations of seedy strip clubs, but the ladies at Impulse Pole Dance will show you that pole dancing is not only an art form but an excellent workout as well.

I set out to find out if pole dancing is really as sexy as it looks. Unfortunately, I didn’t get the memo on what to wear. I showed up for my first class clad in leggings and sneakers. I needed neither: I changed into shorts for leg grip on the pole and took the sneakers off to go barefoot. A few of the girls were ready with their stripper heels and I must admit, I was quite envious. It’s a little hard to feel sexy twisting around a pole with dirty feet.

While a t-shirt and shorts is fine for class, I did notice that Impulse has quite a bit of clothing and shoes for sale; a few of the girls were looking sexy and confident in their tanks and booty shoots. I made a mental note to get me some shiny booty shorts and sky high stripper heels if I survived a few classes.

Sexiness certainly doesn’t equate to size, and nowhere is this more true than here. The ladies who joined me in class were all shapes and sizes.

We started off with some slow and sexy stretching and I tried to master the “fireman” spin. My instructor, Jessica, noticed me fumbling around the pole with about as much grace as an elephant twerking like Miley Cyrus, and approached me. She broke down the move very slowly, while I regretted not putting on more deodorant before leaving for class.

Finally, after a several awkward tries in front of the entire class, I mastered the “fireman”, and Jessica continued showing us the routine. The ladies who are devotees really take their stuff seriously; the gal in front of me turned on her cell phone to take a video selfie so she could critique her moves at home after class, while I marveled at the curvy lady in front of the class who had so much flexibility.

It’s been two days and every muscle in my upper body is sore, but that won’t stop me from going back and trying to get better. Jessica showed great patience as an instructor, and I highly recommend Impulse Pole Dance not only for an excellent fitness class, but as a great way to get in touch with your sexier side.