We got schwitty with it in the studio when this client brought her entire Rick and Morty plush collection. So, I told her to “Hit the Sack Jack!” and get “Wriggity Wriggity Wrecked”! This series took me to another dimension for sure!
I’ve had clients come in for a session after massive weight loss and I’m often asked what kind of lingerie is best for hiding excess skin or scars from surgery for skin removal.
You’ve heard me say this one before and I keep recommending it because it’s a universally flattering piece; it’s the workhorse of the lingerie closet: the corset.
Look for a steel-boned corset; it will hold its shape better than a corset with plastic boning.
Bodystockings: I love them because they show off your shape, are revealing, but still cover a multitude of perceived flaws such as cellulite, scars, varicose veins, etc.
Gowns or Lace Dresses: Sheer lace works the same way a bodystocking does but you can wear it over a pretty bra and underwear set or completely nude. Alternatively, you can also wear a satin gown for a more conservative look.
Hi-Waisted Briefs: They look great under a lace gown or paired with a bra, elbow length gloves and some over-the-knee boots.
Robes: They can be worn over other pieces, and used to drape and hide certain areas.
As women, we get so nervous about exposing ourselves in a boudoir session, but it's really more about showing who you are. Your choice of wardrobe (if any) not only reflects your personality, but can help you feel better in your skin. Don't let a little extra skin get in the way of expressing your sensual side.
Why do women come in for sessions?
There are many different reasons: birthdays, anniversaries, milestones, but some reasons are much more emotional.
For example, I had a client schedule a session for her boyfriend and then nearly cancel because she found out he was cheating on her. I told her to come in anyway because looking good is always the best revenge.
By the time she came in, they were back together again. She was choosing to stay as an expression of love and commitment to work on the relationship.
It was a much needed reminder that she is truly worthy and beautiful.
A boudoir session can be a reminder that the things you believe you "lack" have nothing to do with your spouse or significant other’s actions.
Other women in the same situation come to me because they’re going through a divorce or leave their significant other. Their boudoir session serves as a way to reconnect with themselves and their sexuality.
I've had women come in who have lost a significant amount of weight, but still identify with the "before" weight-loss version of themselves. They still find themselves gravitating to plus-sized clothing and rejecting styles that are body-conscious because they don't feel they can pull them off, but seeing photos of themselves in their new body helps them get comfortable with the idea of being a smaller size.
Still others may come in after they’ve had surgery of some kind . The boudoir session helps empower them to feel beautiful and whole again.
In a way, a boudoir session is a kind of therapy. You can funnel your fears and pain into something positive, and more importantly, ART!
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We all have that one less-than-flattering photo. You know, the one that looks like you're about to birth a food baby or three?
I get why women find it intimidating to come in for a session and get undressed, or at least partially undressed in front of a stranger. Just know that I won't stare blankly at you while you figure out how to emote sexy. I will guide you into poses that make you look like the drop-dead gorgeous woman that you are.
One of the things we'll discuss when you come in for your session is any perceived problem areas. I always hear that women want to lose a few pounds first, but I have you covered in the posing department. Let's look at some examples, shall we?
Titling your head slightly down can be flattering for most face shapes but tilt too far down and you create a double chin. Tyra Banks has a trick that she calls the "turtle". Push your chin out a bit and hold your tongue against the roof of your mouth to avoid a double chin.
Letting arms hang limply at your side flattens the muscle and makes it look larger. Bending your elbows and creating a triangle creates a much more flattering silhouette.
I'm all about creating or enhancing curves. Having her bend the leg that is closest to the camera and place her hands behind her to create negative space gives her a much more dynamic shape.
You can see that the photo on the left does nothing for her shape. Her arms are hanging limply at her side. Again, I have her bend the leg that is closest to the camera and bend her elbow slightly to create negative space.
Create the illusion of a smaller waist. No Photoshop required. Simply placing your hands around your middle and bringing them in closely gives the appearance of a teeny, tiny waist.
I can also help to create a rounder derriere. Lifting the hips creates a booty-ful booty to behold and has the added benefit of smoothing out any cellulite one may have.
I promise that I will never take a photo of your bum straight on; that's always a sure fire way to make you look as wide as possible. We avoid this by having your shift your weight onto one hip and bending the leg that's furthest away from the camera.
"Pop" the booty in a standing position and you've got a butt worthy of the song "Baby Got Back"!
It's all about that hourglass shape! Tummy in, chest out! Shift your weight onto one hip, and create a diamond with your hands on your hips.
See? I promise I can make you look as gorgeous as the ladies on my website. What are you waiting for?
Women come to me usually for two reasons: either they feel really beautiful and sexy and want me to capture that for them, or they don’t feel sexy at all and need that confident boost. Of course there are other reasons women get boudoir done, but those are the top two. You may be the in the latter camp.
Although I do find that a boudoir session carries lasting results for clients including a sense of newfound confidence and a reassurance that they are indeed beautiful, sometimes we just have those days when we feel about as sexy as a pissing toad.
I mean, Mama June went and got herself a beach body and I’m still over here eating cookies for breakfast. That’s ok. My boobs match my butt. I put my big girl panties on, which may or may not include a leopard print, look in the mirror, and pull my confidence secrets out of my hat. Let me share a few:
Whether I’m wearing make-up or not, I fill in my brows. It’s the first step to looking more put-together, and well, younger. Most of us want to look as young as possible. Plus, it frames my face. A microblading appointment with Lauren Haley is definitely next up on the beauty list.
Next, I might throw on an off-the-shoulder or cold-shoulder top to show off my neckline. It’s super feminine, and if I’m feeling really extra, I’ll put some highlighter along my collarbone.
Sometimes all we need is lipstick and mascara. Of course, I’m partial to Limelight by Alcone’s Perfect Lipstick which is super pigmented, but no so matte that it makes my lips feel dry, and my lash-lengthening Perfect Mascara that has fibers already in the formula, but no matter which brand you use, there’s just something about lipstick and mascara that serves as a quick mood booster. Give me lashes. Give me lips. Give me the world.
Do something outside your comfort zone. When we’re feeling too comfortable, we develop limitations. We suddenly convince ourselves that there are certain things we can’t do. Getting a little uncomfortable helps you reinforce positive attributes about yourself. Doing a boudoir session is one way to get out of your comfort zone, but it could be as something as simple trying a new machine at the gym.
Gym…did someone say exercise? Yep. I do it at least four times a week. It’s a mood booster that gets the endorphins going, and keeps the doctor at bay.
Then, after you’ve done your session with me, get comfortable accepting compliments and accolades. See below.
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