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I came up with a temporary shower set as the bathroom in my studio is much too small to shoot in and the results were nothing short of spectacular.
This was a limited edition set due to the small space afforded by studio; I cannot leave it up all the time. BUT...that doesn't mean I won't be bringing it back. If you want in on these sessions, get on my mailing list now!
I’ve had clients come in for a session after massive weight loss and I’m often asked what kind of lingerie is best for hiding excess skin or scars from surgery for skin removal.
You’ve heard me say this one before and I keep recommending it because it’s a universally flattering piece; it’s the workhorse of the lingerie closet: the corset.
Look for a steel-boned corset; it will hold its shape better than a corset with plastic boning.
Bodystockings: I love them because they show off your shape, are revealing, but still cover a multitude of perceived flaws such as cellulite, scars, varicose veins, etc.
Gowns or Lace Dresses: Sheer lace works the same way a bodystocking does but you can wear it over a pretty bra and underwear set or completely nude. Alternatively, you can also wear a satin gown for a more conservative look.
Hi-Waisted Briefs: They look great under a lace gown or paired with a bra, elbow length gloves and some over-the-knee boots.
Robes: They can be worn over other pieces, and used to drape and hide certain areas.
As women, we get so nervous about exposing ourselves in a boudoir session, but it's really more about showing who you are. Your choice of wardrobe (if any) not only reflects your personality, but can help you feel better in your skin. Don't let a little extra skin get in the way of expressing your sensual side.
As a boudoir photographer, I see a lot of clients that suffer from low self-esteem, body dysmorphia, depression, self-image issues after surgery or a major accident. Today, I’m going to tell you my story about low self-esteem, and lack of confidence.
It took four tries. With each failure, I’d rehash what I needed to do differently. I’m talking about the number of times I tried to leave an abusive relationship.
I was 18 and I had grown up in abusive household. It didn’t take long before I fell into the abusive relationship I’d grown up with.
It started with him just “wanting to spend time with me”, and my friends complaining that they never saw me. And before long, when I wanted to go out and do things with my friends that didn’t include him, he’d say “Your friends are a bad influence.”
It later escalated to anger when I did attempt to spend time with my friends. I began to conceal visits with friends to avoid his wrath.
And then came my family. My mother immediately recognized the signs, and divorced my abusive stepfather when I was 15. Unfortunately, she was too late to stop the cycle of abuse.
L felt threatened. He knew that my friends and family didn’t care for him and his response was to isolate me even further from my friends and family.
I ended up moving in with him when my student financial aid was late and I wasn’t sure I was going to be able to get housing on campus. With that move, L was able to track my comings and goings. It got to the point that I was expected to come home in between classes if I had more than hour in between.
At first, when he got angry, he would take his anger out on inanimate objects. Mostly, those objects tended to be things that were important, or of sentimental value to me.
On one occasion, he ripped my math book to shreds because I was trying to study and not paying attention to him. It didn’t take long for the behavior to escalate to physical abuse. I stayed for the reason that every abused woman stays: low self-esteem.
L became jealous and insecure of even my schoolwork. I was a theater major and he didn’t want me to audition for anything that involved a love interest. I lost a role in an independent film because he insisted on coming to the set and telling the director what I could and could not do.
L enlisted the help of his mother to keep from leaving the first time. She had convinced me to stay, and he tearfully promised me he would be better. And things were better…for a few weeks.
Every attempt after that was met with him crying and tracking me down at my place of work, my school, or through my friends. I began to feel like I would never be able to get away from him, and in some twisted logic, I felt like if I married him, that he would finally get tired of me. We got married by a justice of the peace. My mother moved out of state and stopped speaking with me altogether. I had very few friends left to confide in.
It wasn’t until I had graduated college and started a new job where I had time away from L that I was able to get to know some of my co-workers. One of my co-workers said that she too, had been in a relationship like mine, and referred me to the attorney she used. I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to afford an attorney since L controlled all of the finances, and she assured me that the attorney would allow me to make payments, and that I didn’t have to pay him in full every month.
Luckily, I still had my credit cards in my name and I was able to take a cash advance from them. I had managed to relocate my mother and started buying prepaid calling cards so I could call her without L knowing.
I was able to finally start planning what needed to be done: set up a PO Box, find an apartment, change my work schedule, and have him served with divorce papers once I was finally moved out. I asked my closest, and only, friend at the time to help me move, and my mother helped me with a down payment on another car once I finally left for good. L stole my car one evening while I was at a friend’s house, even though legally, I was entitled to one of the vehicles since Pennsylvania law splits marital property 50%.
I’m telling my story because if there are any of you out there who can identify with my story, then I hope by reading my story that you realize that you can leave.
Controlling, abusive partners can be identified by the way they to try isolate partners from friends and family. They often violate your privacy by checking your phone or emails, and are constantly paranoid or jealous. Trust is virtually non-existent in a controlling relationship, and they will ignore your feelings.
You know your partner will try to find you and lure you back. They will continue to violate your privacy, cry, and perhaps even threaten to hurt you or them.
Figure out your finances before you leave; have a place to stay and make sure your partner won’t be able to follow you home from work or friends’ homes. Get a restraining order if need be. Get a prepaid cell phone and see if you can alter your work schedule. Have a network of people that you can count on to help you through the process, whether it’s friends, family, or a clergy member.
I highly recommend the book Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. It was written by a former FBI consultant who learned the precursors to violence. An abuser will often fit many of those signs.
You deserve better. Choose yourself. Choose happiness and freedom. Life is too short not to.
I can’t tell you the number of times that I’ve been shopping and looked at a dress or a top and thought, “Where the hell am I supposed to stuff the girls?” Duct tape is a breast’s worst enemy. Therefore, anything that requires strapless or backless becomes a no-no in my closet.
Most strapless bras are ill-fitting and don't stay up. Not to mention that most of them are downright plain. It seems that bra manufacturers don't want to invest in the R&D to develop a bra that would solve a wardrobe problem for a vast majority of women.
Big Titty Sisters Unite!
Don’t get me wrong. I love the look of strapless and backless. It just seems to be a look that is meant for the less well endowed, or those fortunate enough to have perky breast implants.
So, when I was scrolling through Instagram, and saw the Upbra, I had to find out more. Everyone has seen the stick-on strapless bra with the strings meant for pulling the cleavage together, and although you might get a little cleavage, it doesn’t lift the girls, and will apparently fall off with boob sweat (which is a given in Florida).
I was sure this was going to be another gimmick. The website photos shows of the bra being modeled by women with ample assets, but it was the before-and-after photos that won me over.
I promptly made the purchase based on my usual bra size without taking their patent-pending bra size test so when the first one arrived, I had to return it for a smaller band size. It is often said 80% of women are wearing the wrong bra size, although I couldn't seem to find a reliable source to support this notion. I gained some weight and assumed I needed to go up a band size. Who knew I was a 36DD?
Well, apparently, now the whole internet knows. If you’re a lingerie company, feel free to send me any new bras that you’d like a review of. (pervs need not apply)
Shipping is fast; the bra arrived in about two days. It definitely doesn’t resemble your typical strapless bra. The cups have some kind of panel in them that the breasts sort of sit on top of to lift them. After you put the bra on, you adjust the clips on the inside to adjust for minimum or maximum cleavage. Do take note: the more you stretch those clips, the more cleavage you get, but you also get more jiggle, aka the titty twerk.
I put it on but wasn’t totally sold until I actually tried it on with some clothes. It doesn’t leave a visible bra line, is quite supportive, and actually stays in place.
I would love a bit more lift.
That means I actually bent over in it and jumped up and down. The things I do in the name of blogging integrity…
The Upbra would be even better with a slightly wider band and 3 hooks for support, and some boning in the band would probably help give the girls a bit more lift.
My Holy Grail strapless bra is one that will lift my boobs up to my neck and still stay put all day. What’s that saying? “The higher the boobs, the closer to God?” Oh wait, that’s for high heels. Well, I believe it applies to boobs too.
So, is the Upbra my Holy Grail strapless? Mostly. I’d still love a bit more lift, but if I’m being realistic, I’d need a crane for that anyway.
I welcome being able to introduce some strapless styles into my wardrobe. Oh, and Upbra, if you’re reading this, please make a black, lacy, strapless Upbra.
Vacationing in Florida? Here’s your lingerie and swimwear guide. Let yourself be inspired by the floral and fauna, and wear something brightly colored. Red really compliments a tan.
Be ahead of the curve with these plunging pieces from Yandy.com that will let you be your own Baywatch babe.
A nude crochet bikini transforms you into a boho beach bunny.
Similarly, going nude with your lingerie allows you to wear plenty of white.
I love a good cover-up as much the next woman but beach pants let you cover up without covering up everything.
High-waisted may be retro but couldn't be more modern these days. This bra and panty set from Yandy.com is meant to be seen, both in the bedroom or out. Pair the bra with a sheer top for added sex appeal.
Tampa is known for its hip and trendy social scene and diverse population. There’s enough here to satisfy any tourist’s need to both explore and relax. Let Boudoir Betty make your vacation one you won't soon forget!
